👤 This week’s INF Club member’s interview is with Gennaro Larucci, an INFJ from Villeneuve, Switzerland.
Hey there! What do you like to be called?
It’s nice to meet you, Gennaro. So can we start this interview by finding out where in the world you currently reside? Is this also where you grew up?
I was born and raised in Geneva/Switzerland. Originally Italian, I presently live in Villeneuve/Vaud.
Oh cool, you’ve experienced a few places then. Do you have a favourite of the places you’ve lived? Where do you call ‘home’?
I moved 9 times in 10 years...The World is my Hometown and I really simply wish, someday to live by the Sea again.
Home is where it feels good. I am not attached to places.
Do you remember what you were like as a child?
Questions, existential questions from the very beginning. In my thoughts and inner world. A solitary individual already. Felt outrageously different from everyone including my family. I always knew there is more to Life than material things. I danced from an early age, witnessing Artist being Free while performing I kind of knew I belonged to Art even I felt I wasn’t fitting anywhere. So as an extremely curious kind of guy, I went from dancing, to singing, being a model, photography, writing poetry, constantly trying to feel I would fit. How wrong and why fitting…?!
Is ‘Artist being Free’ something you saw/read, or are you describing your own experience feeling free as an artist?
Artists being free while watching them perform is more linked to an inner sensation, they made me think they looked just Free to be themselves.
There is absolutely nothing wrong, per say, in wanting to fit in, but I just wouldn’t. Wherever I would go, whatever I would do. I wasn’t feeling I belonged. That reminisces a Mrs Lauryn Hill sentence that goes, approximately: “Why are you trying to fit into a standard? You already are the standard”.
That’s a beautiful quote. Moving on a little… what was school like for you? And how were your teenage years as a whole?
Teachers said I had no bright future...I wouldn’t mind at all encountering some now...I got bullied also, not that roughly but it was tough.
Gosh, teachers - and adults as a whole - can be very harsh with their words...
What words, or phrases, would you use to describe your current self?
Wisdom is having Dreams big enough, not to lose sight of them while pursuing them.
- Mr Oscar Wilde
May the Flame that burns inside, find enough ashes, to guide you through the Supreme Azure.
- From the Purgatory, Divine Comedy, Mr Dante Alighieri
Everyone of us has a pair of wings, only the ones who Dream, will learn how to Fly.
- Mr Jim Morrison
I love these, thanks for sharing them. So, when did you first realise that you were an introvert? How did this happen?
That was quite shocking as I always pictured myself being more of an extrovert, to me being in touch with my inner world is vital. I figured that out not even 6 months ago when I “stumbled” across a YouTube video about INFJ’s traits.
Oh, so fairly recently. What was it like to discover you were an introvert? And why was it that you had always pictured yourself as more of an extrovert?
It just made even more sense. Being so in tune with paradox I was just like ho! Ok that’s why! But generally speaking, I am not into boxing myself, or others into a category, cause us humans are usually more than how why define ourselves.
Because (I) am (a) curious person, who needs to break with the routine and gets bored super easily, I just attached those traits to an extrovert type, which is quite accurate by the way!
Do you identify as being an INFP or an INFJ? (or something else?)
INFJ according to all the tests I have made.
You mentioned you discovered you were an introvert/INF fairly recently… When did you first do the Myers-Briggs test and realise you were an INFJ?
Congratulations! Has discovering you were an INF_ impacted you in any way? If so, how?
It’s a weird feeling as I don’t like being boxed into any category, however it does explain a few things. The impact is good anyway.
What qualities do you think INFJs, and INF-types (INFPs and INFJs) in general, share?
Being a Living Paradox!
Haha, I hear you! What were your favourite subjects at school? What did you study at university/college?
Art, but never really studied it. Consequently, I was not so much of a good student.
I have started a Bachelor in Theology last February, it’s a Blessing!
Was there any particular reason that you felt that you didn’t study Art at school, even though it was your favourite?
Swiss school, in the early stages, apart from suing, a bit of drawing or what we would call “travaux manuels” wasn’t that much into creativity. Then I wanted to get myself my sabbatical year to practice English so after high school I got into a High Commercial School, which eventually got me into a professional career.
And congratulations on the Bachelors! That sounds exciting. How did this come about?
Right before turning 38, I felt something quite significant was happening. The so-called middle age crisis. To me a blessing. Approaching 40 I needed them to be a stepping stone into another living reality.
After spending 5 days of complete immersion into Monasticism, slowly but surely it felt that Theology was the Way.
What are you spending your time on at the moment?
My University studies
My soon-to-be new place to live
My Rise (female cat)
My Precious Ones
It sounds like you have a lot going on! Was there a moment in your life when you made a drastic change?
When I quit dancing lessons.
When I left for Australia, particularly Sydney.
When I got out of the closet to my parents.
When I moved by myself, I will, till the end remember that first sunrise into my first own apartment!
When I left the financial industry after 9 years, got a job at McDonald’s and started studying in an Art School, to drop the Art School cause I felt trapped into another box.
When I felt so broken-hearted and sad that I had to move back to my parents, for a short while and heard for the first time that crisis is another way to transformation.
When I left my hometown to work in an Art Gallery in the Swiss Alps. When I slammed the door of the Art Gallery and moved on.
When I got my current job into one of the most prestigious and international private clinic. Turning 30 my goal was the luxury business, smashed it!
When I turned 40 and spent that almost week in an Abbey amongst Monks, other decade, other goals, other life vision.
Right now, after having left Geneva 9 years ago and potentially coming back!
Wow, thanks so much for sharing all of these things, Gennaro. As a recently-turned-30-year old who has made his own fair share of changes, especially in his career, it’s always reassuring to know that I’m not the only one!
So you’ve mentioned your Art now on more than one occasion. Do you have a preferred creative/artistic outlet? Can you tell us a bit about this?
Some call me a Visionary, not in a way of inventing something but more in the fact that I see things coming or through people.
That sounds so interesting. Would you describe yourself as a 'highly sensitive person', or an empath?
Do you have a personal definition of 'success'? What does being 'successful' look like to you?
Successful means being and remaining a Good Human.
What about 'happiness' - do you have a personal recipe for that?
I would call it Joy. A blissful sensation when profoundly feeling gratitude. It doesn’t happen often but it does!
I like that. Do you like to plan things, or are you more of a go-with-the-flow type of person? (Or, perhaps both?)
I am a Living Paradox so have a guess for the answer...
Haha, oh yes, I can relate - a lot! Okay, so what does your 'perfect Sunday' look like?
When I feel deeply calm.
And what sorts of things might you do to help you feel calm? What would your day look like?
Last time it happened I wasn’t doing much. I was actually patiently waiting at the barber shop, listening to classical music. It is more of tapping into an inner place that lasts for a bit.
Is there anything you've read, watch or listened to recently, that you've loved?
I had the Massive Privileged to be guided through the brand new restored Chateau de Fontainebleau Theatre, near Paris. The tour guide was so passionate that to hear how he told the story, it brought tears to my eyes. Needless to say that the place itself is absolutely magnificent!!!
Wow, that does sound quite magical. I’ll have to check this place out, should I ever be back in Paris. How about favourite movies or TV shows? Anything you've seen recently that you'd recommend?
This is Us
The documentary about Alexander McQueen
I just googled Sense8… thank you, both of these sound really interesting indeed. If you could go back in time and meet "you" back in 2010, is there any advice that you'd give this younger self?
You think you know, but you have no idea!
And if you could one or two pieces of advice to your follow INFs, what would they be? (Is there anything in particular that you've "worked on", which you've found helpful to you/your life in some way?)
Life per say is a Paradox, do not question Yours too much.
What does 'self-care' mean for you? How do you practise it?
Getting up early, sport, meditation, praying, eating healthy, my studies, spending time alone.
Gennaro, this has been great. Where can others find and connect with you online?
I am not sure entirely about the Twitter one and if you could please help...I feel silly asking that but you know...am not the typical social media user…;)
Lastly, is there anything else you'd like to say?
Often, it is not who you are or pretend to be, what you do or act towards others that makes the entire difference. It’s a combination of both that I would call congruence.
It has been SUCH a pleasure to interview you, Gennaro. Thank you for taking part.
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